How To Accept Yourself and Find Opportunities Everywhere

There's no such thing as a normal world, normal family, normal career, normal relationship. Whatever your friends, parents, role models taught or showed you is most probably going to be different for you. So you might as well let go of all the definitions you have in your head and let your own reality open up in full beauty.

Yeah, seems that too many people are resisting their reality that wants to come. Their afraid of unconventional choices that are too far from mainstream -- though mainstream is nothing else than an illusion.

There's no such thing as a normal life. Just look at what's going on in the world, we can't keep up with stiff backbones trying to resist the change. World is changing anyway and if we try to keep it still with our solid expectations for jobs, relationships, lifestyles -- we're just always feeling we're not really getting what we wanted. Constantly missing out that something that could make us happy -- and constantly missing out opportunities that stay outside of our definitions of "normal".

Just accept the reality as it is. It's a freaking chaos, a crazy adventure, one opportunity opening up after the other, non-stop dance. Trying to control it with your expectations of "normal" and "right" is just crazy.

Go with it, flow with it. Let it come, whatever that is.

A girlfriend you didn't expect, boyfriend with a lousy car, a job opportunity that scares the hell out of you, a bold decision you should have taken a long time ago.

There's a reason why I'm not acting like any other single mom. In fact -- I think the term is misused most of the times, it tends to frame the reality in a certain way. It tells my story without me saying a word. Much too often it has a bit sad undertone, overloaded with historical negative data that sets expectations. "Oh, she must be boring." "Well, she might be good for fun, but I can't really consider a relationship with her." "Poor baby, she has been suffering so much."

This is only a perception, one way to interpret reality -- but not necessarily my interpretation.

And "single mom" is only one of the examples -- think of the terms you're being defined by or that you use to define the world. Do they help you or stop you from being happy? And is this the reality or just one perception?

I'm avoiding definitions that tie you to certain abnormalities, because the "abnormality" is often more normal than we think. World is full of unconventional stories and looking at the pace the world is changing -- stability is the last thing we can count on. Which makes me think that it's the last time to consider unconventional the new "normal".

Chaos is the most normal form of life and accepting it fully in your life allows you to fly with opportunities. So don't let the "voices" (whoever they might be) tell you otherwise.

Chaos is the new Order.

PS: Anger should be turned into constructive force to move forward. I can get angry when meeting narrow-mindedness and judgmental opinions -- probably more about meeting my own limits. This post is fully inspired from one recent occasion. All you get are lessons, I'm glad to keep learning and as crazy as it might sound -- to keep meeting difficulties.