Have you been in a situation where you feel you just don't fit in the group? The jokes they make, stories they tell -- you just don't "click", have nothing to add?
Unless it was that you were sick or tired, you probably experienced some kind of a conflict between your values and the values of the group.
The thing is that every group is sharing certain values, this is what keeps it together -- and if your values don't match you better do something about it.
- Learn to be a better communicator and keep a different opinion without insulting the group members
- Change your opinions
- Leave and choose a better crowd
- (add your own thought)
Just sitting around and feeling bad about yourself doesn't help anybody, least yourself.
The truth is that no matter how strong is your personality and how effective you are in communication -- the group always influences your opinions. Even a slight change in your opinion influences your internal values and the more you have to adjust, the more you become alike the group.
I'm not saying if it's good or bad, just that -- make sure you choose the right crowd. If you haven't recently been drawn to a conversation that inspires you or you haven't felt really INTO the group -- you probably gotta meet some new people.
And a hint about your values -- watch out for the things that you really, really like. Everything that makes you feel good says a great deal about your values. You shouldn't change these values that make you bloom, change only those that make you feel down.
Allright, gotta run on a dinner, talk later!