If You Don't Know What You Want, You're Doing Something Wrong

"I can teach anybody how to get what they want out of life. The problem is that I can't find anybody who can tell me what they want."

Mark Twain

Do you remember the ease of dreaming?

Have you ever felt it's hard to tell what you really want? You've ever wondered why is that?

Time to stop finding excuses for not knowing what you want and find it out. And a good place to start is to unlearn some crap you've picked up and start dreaming again.

Dreaming is something you don't need to learn -- yet it sometimes seems that with every year added to our life account we're becoming crappier dreamers. As if growing older means you don't need to dream anymore, as you already know how things work.

Well, if that was true all the innovations would have been invented by 5 year olds.

If you feel that goal setting for you is a duty, something you do because you're:

- afraid to miss out something
- want to seem smart
- have heard it's useful
- thought you'll try it
- {add your own reason}

...then it's time to get back to the basics.

Dreaming is not hard, it's not a job, it's not taking any effort. It's just the most natural ability you have -- to imagine the unbelievable and non-existing things, a better you, an improved world, you making MAGIC and beating the dragons.

You know what I mean? Dreaming is something you've done since you were a child -- and I believe that what you used to dream about has much to do with who you are now and where your life has taken you.

Now think about it -- if those dreams you had as a child have taken you through the school, maybe through the university, gave the friends, sweethearts, trips and jobs that you have and have had, then imagine where your dreams would take you now when you know so much more about the world?

It's really great to know that you already know how to dream, without any training at all. Well, at least deep down you do, but on the surface you might have ran into a dead end. Maybe asking: "Is that possible?" "Is that reasonable?" "Is that what I really want?"

If you find it hard right now to say what you REALLY WANT, you probably need to unlearn some stuff you've picked up on your way here. Absolutely every person knows naturally what he wants -- if you don't anymore, you need to rediscover the ease of dreaming.

We've been much too often trained out of dreaming -- and we're trying to fill the gap with analyzing, thinking, being busy and worrying about it all. Nothing bad about thinking, but you can't really analyze the data that doesn't even exist yet. You see my point? You first need to dream the new possible reality and then make some reality check to start moving towards it.

I was observing my son the other day, he's a master dreamer. He described the future inventions he's gonna make, also the gifts he's gonna get from Santa this year (yeah, he plans that stuff 11,5 months in advance...). Obviously he was not questioning if the way he was dreaming was right or wrong, nor if it would produce the results what he wanted.

It was just fun -- no expectations, no limits.

Seeing this is refreshing. It reminds the fundamental of natural dreaming -- without worries and the anxiety about the outcome.

So dreaming is not merely setting goals. It's not even thinking. It's sensing what is already there and allowing it to come on the surface. It's easy, it's fun and it changes your life.

So before you start setting goals what you want to be 6 months from now or even before you write your daily to do list, make sure you're dreaming. Daily. It doesn't cost a thing, but it takes you forward so much faster.

If you want to know how dreaming has taken me to Malaysia and given me a dream job then check out the story from the recent video training I made for AIESEC Estonia. I believe dreaming is the necessary premise of setting goals, you need both sides of your brain to reach your highest potential. And if you're not a member of AIESEC Estonia, you can simply skip the final part of the video which is purely meant for AIESEC Estonia highly talented members (and I do think you all are).