Everyone is creating their own reality

I don't like wasting time. In fact -- most of the meetings make me impatient. Most of the small talk makes me bored. I love working and getting things done. I feel I'm failing when I don't know how to do something and it slows me down -- so I get even more determined to get it done. I don't like tasks that don't have a point -- or at least I don't know what it is. And to be successful I need to know what's the big picture.

I use the same logic when raising Maru -- I also don't like when Maru wastes my time. I want him to learn to make proposals instead of wining. I want him to be responsible for his own stuff so I don't have to worry about it.

I might be sometimes seem a bit harsh, but I think it'll pay off in the end of the day -- everybody has more free time and everybody is free to arrange their life however pleases them more.

Today we had an agreement with Maru -- when we get home from work he can go swimming, but later he'll organize his drawer. Agreed. Before he started to work I told him to organize the drawer however he wants' because he's now 5 years old and knows better how he likes his things to be orgnized.

Result -- in fact, quite surprising. It took him 5 minutes to clean the drawer, no complaining at all and things were arranged in a totally new system. I had taught him the classical system for the last 3 years -- put pants, shirts, socks etc together.

What he did? Well, in less than 5 min he replaced the whole system with a new one. When I went to check the final result he produly introduced me: "So here are all the red things, here are blue ones, here are green ones and here I put yellow and orange."

Wow! I had to swallow my first reaction to recommend him to change this and that, comes so automatically to go back to status quo, doesn't it? But I truly think that empowering people around you -- including your kids, friends, co-workers etc is the way to happiness.

I really don't want to worry about things that other people should and want to worry about.